When being nice is no longer nice…

Being nice, or the willingness and the desire to serve others can be a double-edged sword. It doesn’t seek for returns or rewards but when what it earns is negativity, it should be time to reminisce to try to understand the importance of this process of doing things. When being nice becomes a torturous torment that is hard to imbue, translated to be hard to comprehend and understandable in ways leading to being unappreciated. One should think and reflect on the ways of doing things.


Being nice on itself is not a bad thing, but when it doesn’t get to the needs of the other person, it would not be any thing worth mentioning. On the other hand, to be able to comprehend this and seek to do what it requires would definitely serve a greater sense of purpose and meaning. It is not easy and takes great sensitivity to be able to serve with humility and directed at the immediate needs of ur friends. Perhaps I haven’t possesses such qualities which resulted in the failure of addressing the fundamental.


Reflection is nice though it is coupled with a ripple effect of heartache, but pain is inevitable but necessitates a change in what matters most. Pain brings about immediate attention to the sensory motor which requires us to take actions.


Still, there is much to be thankful for, and much efforts are needed to thrust out of my comfort zones, just as Stephen Convey mentioned in the 8th habit of effective people that the initial stages of such is usually the most difficult and is parallel to the amount of forces that is needed to move a rocket out of the ground initially.


“Dang Ni Gu Dang, Ni Hui Xiang Qi Shui”? Waileong came to my mind when I feel like nobody understands.. I always remember the time he shows unconditional positive regards for me back in secondary school. I believe I was a rash, emotional and short tempered guy who always gets on the nerve via certain actions like the splashing of chili sauce onto his shirt accidentally while opening it. He has never gotten angry with me before but has been patient and gentle with me all this while. Thanks for being around and always helping me in times of needs. I feel thankful and appreciated always with u around. I remember, I lost something important in G.e.s.s when I was in Sec 3 and Wai Leong was there by my side searching high and Low for it. Sometimes it is not the finding back of the stuff that is lost that is important but the presence of a dear someone who is willing to stand by ur side when u are in need. Thanks for ur overwhelming presence. =P

Anyway, today is one of my primary school friend's BIRTHDAY.. Happy Birthday Connie!!! Hope u have had a great time today.

Upon the things that I have not been doing correctly, I will take effort to change and turn myself to a better person. God bless.